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For starts, let’s assume everyone reading this is a nutrition expert. We know What to eat, for the most part.
The function of food is simple and as follows:
Good, clean food ->improves assimilation -> increases energy -> improves digestion ->eliminates constipation – > makes you sexy. In that order.
Now, picture this:
Licking Nutella off the spoon, exiting out the door, shoving an energy bar, bursting with antioxidant and all… busy, no? Picking out leftovers from a child’s plate, after ranting at them for not eating. Loud bossing in general, instant opinion about how horrible the food’s going to taste. Watching TV, reading email. Getting up for seconds, thirds, or fourths? Still hungry? Looking at the ice cream tub at midnight?
When my energy sags, skin flakes (or worse), or weight see-saws, I agonize over my “healthy” eating plan, haul the best of the weight-loss books, visit websites, re-analyze, make plans, create lists, buy more “organic” food and agonize all over again. What was amiss? Then I recalled this:
When my spiritual teacher visited us in 2010, I ate ravenously, fully and completely. The meals were prepared at home, with much love and affection. We shared a meal and a prayer. We talked, we laughed, we appreciated the delectable setting on the table. Five days of merriment, good meals, and loads of energy. When he left, I found that I had dropped five pounds, my skin glowed and I had forgotten to wear make-up.
Was it how I ate that made all the difference?
Picture this:
Pancakes at breakfast : 1 egg, a scoop of whole whey concentrate, 1 tablespoon of organic gluten-free pancake mix, a tablespoon of chia seeds, fresh organic blueberries. Perfect. Yes? Aha..
Now picture this:
Me: shouting loudly at the kids: “Come down your breakfast’s getting cold”- Adrenaline rush, cortisol rising, adipose forming – where’s the lion*? Then, flipping a pancake and stuffing a piece in my mouth, wondering if I can down another cup of coffee before dropping off the kids to school. Liver imbalance, bile thickened, sluggish intestine – where’s the sexy?
*The body has just moved into a flight-or-fight response. In that instant. If there was a lion in the kitchen, I would have attempted to run away, and perhaps not added on adipose (fat).
As part of my Project 365, I have decided the spotlight will shine first on mindful eating. Following are my steps to support this.
SIT and SET
1) Find a place to sit down. Even if I’m licking jelly of a spoon.
2) Use a bowl, plate and cup combo. Place the entire meal within this three-piece setting.
3) Sit comfortably. Don’t read further. STOP – Do this now..Relax your shoulders, gently release the tension in your neck by moving it. Breathe calmly and soften your belly. Relax your jaw. Ok – good. Continue reading. You have just set the hormones in the right mood to assist your digestion.
LOOK and FEEL
4) While seated, survey the food with all five senses. Will this be enough? Take a super-educated guess without using your brain. Feel it. Yes, No? Will I need seconds? Of which item? Do not say, “Maybe.” This is so, so important. Maybe means you are thinking too much and not listening to the signals from your body.
5) Nix distractions.
PRAY, EAT, LOVE
6) Place my hands around the food. Thank and bless the food. A simple affirmation, “May this be meal be satisfying and nourishing.” “May this food be healing.”
7) Eat happily. Need a second helping? Yes? Love yourself anyway.
Do just this, and nothing else, without worrying about what to eat. (for now; this is working counter to the norm. Become skillful in the ”how” and then the “what”)
If you are trying this out for the first time, start with just one meal, whether it is a huge dinner or a small orange, and do all steps for a whole week, slowly extending it to all you eat. Create your own special routine.
Write to me; let me know if anything changed, or if you have questions or suggestions. If you are a Zen master, share your thoughts and tips.
Here’s my most valuable tip. Take a picture of everything you eat each day, for at least one week. From licking the spoon, to the energy bar, your drinks and your supplements. Go ahead, use that smart phone. Picture-taking is uber-fashionable these days.
This is what I ate today.
Coming up in the next post.. How picture taking will increase mindful eating.
Until then
Drink your tea slowly and reverently, as if it is the axis on which the world earth revolves – slowly, evenly, without rushing toward the future. Live the actual moment.’ ~Thich Nhat Hanh
I can so relate to this! I’ve had a dispassionate love/hate relationship with food all my life, yes from birth! I was allergic to all dairy and egg products for most of my life. I’ve been a vegetarian on and off for most of my life too. I strive so hard to eat healthy and balance that with raising kids and living in a junk food crazy society. I also have a thyroid auto immune disease.
Twice I experienced eating anything I wanted and not getting sick or gaining weight, once was on a trip to Israel and the other was on vacation in Australia. Relaxing, loving, living peacefully!
I have Thich Nhat Hanh quotes on my fridge too.
Thank you for writing. I hope you carry your vacation experience with you everywhere you go: have fun, peace and much joy. Thich Nhat Hanh is so cute – don’t you think. Eveything he writes makes it home to me.
That all looks so good. I am definitely going to try this.
Hi,
Cool. Thanks for stopping by. Let me know of you try any of this and how it helped.
Love your ideas! I would like to see more about your background on your blog, or, if you prefer privacy, email me. My contact information is on my blog http://www.easyveganfitness.com. I am very interested in the philosophical underpinnings of much of what you’ve written and would love to hear more!
Thank you for your words of appreciation. Yes, I will add an “About me” page (but do take a look at my Project 365 page, just as an FYI). Just very quickly, I am software engineer (with a degree in Comp Sc) who had been following and learning complementary and alternate therapies from about the age of 16. I have worked with several people on their healing journey from weight loss, asthma, infertility etc. I am working towards a certification on a amazing technique called EFT or Emotional Freedom Techniques. This is what I use most of the time, though I incorporate many other modailities. Please take a look at http://www.eftuniverse.com and the http://www.thetappingsolution.com. This technique is endorse by several all of the top doctors. You’ll find lots of videos in the above sites. More on this will be availabe on this blog.
My best wishes on your journey.
I can so relate to this – especially with my children! The picture taking is a great idea and your food looks delicious. I am currently doing a 21 day cleanse which involves only one solid meal at lunch time (smoothies and broths for breakfast and dinner). I am approaching my lunch in a whole new way now!
Thanks for writing. I hope you have a peaceful cleanse (i know, i’ve done that before and have actually worked with people on cleanses) Enjoy it and I hope it restores vitality, and strength. “Sip your broth as if it is the axis on which the earth revolves”
Love this post. It’s exactly what I needed to hear. I’m battling with the constant food into the mouth trapdoor when I get home from work every day… Why does our frustrating day spill over into stuffing our mouths?
I love your food prayer and if you carry on eating such a little you’ll be dropping the pounds!
I’m not an EFT certified practitioner but I learned to do it with Gary Craig about 3 or 4 years ago. It’s positive, it works and the main thing it doesnt have any horrible side effects!
oh wow!! YOu studied with Gary! We need to talk more
I am so grateful for having come across EFT. It has definetly increased awareness within. You feel I am eating nothing, ha, ha.. so it seems. I actually feel I have been eating well – very satifactorily and have no hunger pangs. Stopping to take pictures has slowed down everything – the senses, the sensations, the physical act of eating and lead to greater satiation. I hope you have a joyful time eating and maybe add some tapping before that. I have a little tapping circle and I cannot tell you how much that had helped me – many benefits borrowed. Thank you for writing. I feel very honored.
I didn’t study seriously with him. I got his newsletters and was inspired by the amazing stories to do my own tapping. I don’t do it much anymore though.
You have inspired me. I just photographed my breakfast.
I love the picture taking idea! It would remind me of the beauty of what I am about to experience and bring another level of respect to the plate. Will I remember to do it? Hmmmmm…….
Since mindfulness involves mastering only one thing at one time, so, for a whole week, just work on taking pictures. Just that much, without worrying about past or future. Make it is easy like brushing your teeth.
Enjoy your mindful eating. I wish you the very best.
This is all excellent advice and information. We all should try it, starting with me.
Thank you.
Ronnie
Cool.. if you do try it, let me know how it went. Enjoy!
Sit down, feel the food with all the senses, pray (thank) and eat. That’s what I needed to hear, Aparna. Thank you with the bottom of my heart.
Here comes the sexy me! Well, in a while, anyhow.
Ha, ha .. Priya! According to the wise, in practicing Mindfulness, you have nowhere to go. You have already arrived!!
When you put it together like that, it looks like a lot of food for one day. And you lost 5 pounds in 5 days with this? Cool….
I do not want to lose weight. People have told me that I have. It’s probably the sleepless nights. What I want is, to have the motivation & will power to step out every morning for a walk/ jog; to breathe in the life of the beautiful morning air; to see the sun light up our world; to feel it’s gentle warmth on my back.
What I want is stamina. What I want is to be fitter. So that when I am old, I can run with my grandkids the way my son’s grandmom runs with him.
Do these sound like affirmations to you, Aparna?
No, dear. I did not want to lose weight. It happened. When you stop wanting something too badly, and let life happen, allow the flow, then what you *really* want seems to find it’s way to you. When I looked back on how easy those days were with my teacher around, the energy, the love, the effortlessness of living, I asked myself what it was I was doing right. I am trying to bring back effortlessness and love into living. In simple ways. How simple is eating? To some it is very difficult. The simple things become very difficult when you are thinking that something will happen later, that you have to struggle.
Did you step out today? Did you feel the sun? Did you take a walk? DId you hold your son’s hands? Those are true affirmations.
The best thing I have ever learned when I face a “difficult” or “low energy” or “unhappy” situation, is to ask this:
“What is there to love in this? What can I learn from this?”.
Here is a nice video from TED on happiness.
http://www.ted.com/talks/dan_gilbert_asks_why_are_we_happy.html.
I wish you much joy and peace and may you find it effortlessly.
“bring back effortlessness and love into living.”
I put in much hard work into the present trying to make the future effortless; that it hardly remains effortless. Kind of defeats the purpose, I know.
So that’s a lovely wish, Aparna. Thank you.
Hey! I don’t know how I missed this post but glad I found it. Mindful eating is something everyone in my house needs to work on, even the kids. I find that we all tend to graze from morning to night and not on anything worthwhile. I am seeing evidence of a lifetime of bad eating habits pile up both on and in myself. Looking forward to more mindful inspiration.
Great post and I look forward to reading what you have to say about taking photos of your food. Will check out the TED talk too. TED is a bit addictive though! Thank you for putting me on your blogroll. I feel very honoured.
I feel more calm after just reading this post!
What fabulous advice. I’m going to do my best to remember this. And I like how you spoke in an encouraging fashion, instead of with warnings or belittling your readers. And now I really want to make those pancakes! What are chia seeds?
Read this only this morning. I can so relate to this. You kick up a notch on expression. Yes, I am what I eat and I am taking painful efforts to change it. Thank you for your wonderful words of wisdom.
Hey, don’t make it painful, enjoy every bite. It will it make a faster, better and permanent – no see-saws!
I Love this! This is truth…I am excited to start! I truley believe if you prepare and eat with love not only will it taste delicious, I’m sure, but it’ll be better for your body and soul. Thank you for the great post!
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Wow, this post is nice, my sister is analyzing these things, thus I am going to inform her.